How to Write a
Personal Ad
By Jan Verhoeff
Curiosity bites! But, so does cupid. So,
how does one write a personal ad that attracts
the right kind of attention? Dating can be
such a frenzied activity, with so little time
to actually meet the right person.
But, here I sit, in front of the most common
communication tool of our time, so how do
I write an Ad that will attract the kind of
person I want to date?
"SWF, 4 children, 46, looking for
SWM with good attitude" just didn’t appeal
to me. So, I did some research and wrote
a great ad, getting lots of knocks and
winks. So I thought I’d share my process.
1. Before you start spouting out what
you want, you need to look at what you
really do want. Personally, I have a list
and I’ll share a few items on that list.
Someone who will laugh with me, enjoys
a good meal and might even help cook it,
and can participate in quality conversation
will work for starters. Know what you
want, so you can aim for your goal.
2. Start out with some specifics and
open up to more general ideas. You may
know what you want, but there’s only one
Brad Pit, and he’s not looking for someone
46 years old with 4 children. So, leave
some options open and you might be surprised
at who signs on as Mr. Right. Heck, Brad
Pit may be available next week?
3. Write as if you already know who will
be reading your Ad. You know, like it’s
going to be your best friend, because
that’s the result you want from the Ad.
You want a new best friend, one who will
knock you off your feet (well, not literally),
make you swoon with desire, and pick up
his own socks. Write your Ad in a conversational
tone, and talk like you would be talking
to your new best friend. Maybe he’ll think
he already knows you on the first call.
4. Don’t tell them what you look like,
provide a great photo of yourself. Don’t
tell them what kind of personality you
have, show them with your conversational
manner and charming style. Be yourself,
and charm your way into their hearts.
Be naturally yourself and share the thoughts
you’d want someone to know. Make your
personality shine through by using active
energized verbs and descriptions. Share
the essence of who you are.
5. Your Ad can be as long or as short
as you wish (or as the site allows) but
you may want to start out with a shorter
ad that you can add to as you recognize
characteristics you might want to share.
It’s difficult to take away from an ad,
but putting more in is almost always an
option. Write your ad on word pad, and
check your spelling and grammar. Nothing
says YUK like misspelled words and bad
grammar.
6. Be honest by don’t dump all your issues
in the ad. Nobody really cares if you
have thunder thighs, one blue eye and
one brown one, or just got over the plague
(as long as you aren’t still a carrier).
Be honest and share your best qualities,
keep the bad qualities to yourself at
this point, unless you have pointy ears
and sprang from a Vulcan (which might
get you more dates).
7. Don’t give it all away in the ad,
you want something to chatter about on
your first dates besides the weather and
the cost of gas. However, you might want
to consider the cost of gas in where you
search for your date. Consideration for
the other person’s wallet is a nicety
that won’t be forgotten. If distance may
be an issue, be honest about where you
live.
If you are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right
- you may just find them. If you’re looking
for a friend, that’s entirely possible
too. Get out there and live your life
well and love will find you.
Jan Verhoeff enjoys life with her family
in Colorado. Her writing skills provide
ample opportunity to travel and meet people.
Her interest in people have opened up
many opportunities for her - including
this opportunity to create a website for
helping singles find other singles. Visit
her site at http://www.freewebs.com/dating101
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