What Mistakes Men Do When They Approach Women

By Amit Laufer

Most men find the task of approaching a woman especially if she is very attractive stranger a difficult and embarrassing one. Not only that, they usually take the wrong attitude of being too nice and over generous with flowers, paying for dinners and expressing their lake of confidence and low self esteem.

The women on their part are not attracted to insecure, dishonest, wussy men. They will either reject him on the spot or even worse take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to provide her dinner after dinner, present after present and usually see other man for real love, romance and sex. In this situation the woman has two men a provider and a lover.

The nice boy, kiss ass, wussy approach can be seen when a man is asking a woman to dance or offer to buy her a drink without first to build the attraction or chemistry first.

What is the right way to go then?

The nice boy approach is not the right way as we seen above and being really mean and rude will not work either, the right way that has proven 90% of the times to work magically with women is the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.

In this approach you build the relations on a give and take, a compliment and a bust (with a smile), you show the woman you are confident enough to criticize her, you express yourself naturally around women, you are not afraid of her, you are not concerned if she likes you or not, you are honest and express your opinions openly, you are playing the self assured hard to get funny guy. Now you put her self confidence to the test, you challenge her, you Intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You should be her prize, a reword for her hard earned efforts for playing her cards right with you.

For instance you start and say something like: I like your jacket it's really nice (a compliment), then comment: but it doesn't fit so well with your shoos is it ? (a bust), you do it on purpose, you should practice on it.

You should play with her like hand it to her and then take it away in the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected and fascinating.

How do you know if she is interested?

Its simpler than you think and it goes like that: You engage with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you'r wearing , I really like them, She is looking who is it and then say: Thanks. You: aren't you melting in them at such a hot weather? (smiling) or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) hell, no, I love them, thats all, I'll bet my feet are nicer in comparison with yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded so she is engaged too *-). You: wow, I understand you develop a very good opinion about yourself attractive lady, why won't we arrange a feet contest...

The important thing is to keep it running with light humoristic and fun approach. Without even realizing it you are mutually engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.

When you start dating with a woman keep in mind you are not on a job interview, don't make it sound like questions and answers don't make it boring, don't try to impress her, talk with her about general stuff she understands and sympathize with like popular TV shows and such, it might look to you at first somewhat superficial but this is the way to go. Try to avoid at least at first to talk about your problems at work, your relations with your parents etc'.

Some Dating tips for the Timid

There are some timid, shy people out there that have difficulties to make an open conversation with new partners, they usually need more time to adjust to the situation. A simple convenient solution for them might be to go on a first date to the movies and by that to be able to get used to the presence of the new partner without the need to talk. When you come out you can talk about the movie you just both watched.

Another idea, if you're shy about making conversation, is to ask your date about herself. It will help to show that you're interested in learning about her, as well as take some of the pressure of talking off you until you're more comfortable. By making them do the talking you will feel less pressured and eventually you will relax enough to talk about yourself.

Finally, take into account that most people like to talk mainly about themselves, actually what they need most is someone to listen to them attentively, so if you are a good listener you will find many people feel very comfortable with you.

MBA - International Trade & Finance - Heriot-Watt University. Bsc. Computers and Information Systems - Long Island University - C.W Post Campus. Hobby: Photography. Married with two Children.

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