Conversation Starters
for Successful Daters
By Dr. Jackie Black
Dating can seem hard. It is hard to find
someone that shares your same interests. It
is hard to find someone you connect with.
Looking for love is definitely a hard road
to travel.
Dating conversation can be the most
awkward situation a person can ever find
themselves in. Stating a dating conversation
is frustrating. For many people just the
anticipation is enough to make them not
even try to find conversation starters.
In starting a conversation while dating
you are actually at an advantage because
you both already have something in common
- you are on a date together, at the same
place, with, hopefully, the same intentions.
The only thing left to do is pick one
of those three things to talk about and
get started.
The following section explains what types
of conversation starters work best in
a dating situation. These tips can help
you to understand why certain topics result
in better conversation.
You can then use this knowledge to help
yourself start some good dating conversations.
1. Observant comments.
Starting a conversation by commenting
on something around you allows your date
to participate in the conversation. You
could make a comment about something interesting
your date is wearing or about the place
you are at.
Observant comments focus the conversation
on something both of you can talk about
and shows your date that you are at ease
enough to be looking at things around
you, not just focusing on yourself.
2. Adding humor.
Almost everyone can appreciate a good
joke. People love to laugh. It releases
tension and will generally put someone
at ease. Adding in a little humor to your
conversation will liven things up.
It will show your date you are not afraid
to laugh and you are fun to be around.
Be careful of focusing too much on being
funny, though. Let it come naturally.
3. Be unique.
Say something interesting or unusual.
Avoid being weird, though. Catch your
date off guard with something that is
not a cliché. Try to go outside the box
and be creative.
These three conversation starter tips
will help you to start out the conversation
on a good note. Plus you can avoid common
problems that lead to boring conversation.
The following section gives some examples
of what to say to start a dating conversation.
1. Ask if his or her day was as boring
as yours.
2. Ask how he or she got their current
job.
3. Ask your date if he or she has ever
dreamed of living somewhere else and where
and why he or she would live there.
4. Comment on the unusual décor of the
restaurant.
5. Comment on a current event.
6. Ask your date if he or she has a special
hobby.
These are some simple conversation starters
that can really take off into a better
conversation. You can share back and forth
and really get to know more about your
date through these conversations.
Always listen attentively and do not
take over the conversation. Let it flow
and follow the tips and suggestions here
to get your dating conversations going.
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